I’ve learned by bitter experience that one person’s “mildly spicy” might mean actual flames burst from my mouth after the tiniest taste.

Men’s and women’s brains. Yes, he nailed it.

Mark Gugnor has a small group curriculum for marriage enrichment called “Laugh Your Way to A Better Marriage.” Our small group at church picked that one as a study some years back. It’s really a great series! He addresses significant topics, but he also uses humor VERY effectively to take the sting out, and also to offer another path to persuade people that there truly ARE different ways that a man and a woman can approach a situation/problem, WITHOUT one being wrong and the other right.
For example, he compares the path to physical intimacy to: kitchen appliances! He says that a woman’s physical arousal is akin to a crock pot, while a man’s is like a microwave. Therefore, the WISE husband will be sure to speak kindly and sweetly to his wife in the morning, as well as being affectionate when the work day is over, and, as Heinlein says, “rub her feet.”
BTW: the biological basis for the man’s ‘boxes brain’ and the woman’s ‘wires brain’ is largely a function of fetal development. Up to a certain point, there is very little difference in the way that the two genders develop. However, when the differentiation DOES come about, and the males begin to develop testicles, there is a testosterone ‘wash’ in the brain, and you can literally observe the hemispheres splitting apart (although in normal development, substantial connections still remain). The female babies retain far more connections between the left and right halves of the brain, which continues throughout the entire life cycle, and it is theorized that these connections are the reason behind alleged “intuitive” decisions. They really AREN’T magical, although they may seem that way; it’s just that the female has access to more input, often at a sub-conscious level.

Strange about memory. Like you I don’t remember details, but before he passed away last year the guy who was my best man (1972) told me in amazing detail the trip we took to New Orleans in 1970. I had vague memories at best.